Ok so the title sounds cool, but this is about biking and then Gardening, and if I get past that then Dispatch Man is running WAY late.  I bought a bike.  NOT a motorcycle, but a bicycle.  It's a really sweet Specialized Vita, and I was really scared making that kind of investment, but ultimately decided that if I spent the money AND had a bf that wants to go bike riding every other day I would prolly stick to it until it got fun.  At first it was NOT fun.  I rode around different places wishing I could keep up better, take hills without wussing out bigtime, etc.  One day I almost quit, I was recovering from a cold (and pinkeye) and it was windy, and it seemed like the whole time was uphill and against the wind, I got tired before the first couple miles was up and I couldn't keep up.  It sucked, it REALLY sucked. I hated it. 

It was about a week before I went again, between my crazy schedule and the weather we just couldn't fit one in sooner, and he checked the tire pressure which was WAY low, and I was kind of thinking that it might be my last ride if it was as bad as the time before. But not so much. We went over 10 miles and I could have done more, IF I didn't have to worry about working that night.  Turns out tire pressure is important. I wanted to stay on the bike forever! He had to keep up with ME some of the time.  Hills still kick my butt, and bridges if they are hillish.  My last ride was 16 miles though and recently we did 22 miles!!! Yeah me.  I did that. I never could have done that before I quit smoking. 

The vegetable garden is all in and waiting for things to start getting good.  We put down landscaping fabric so we don't have to weed, and a soaker hose with a timer, so it's mostly just a waiting game now.  It's the flowers that are getting fun.  I planted the front beds with petunias and impatiens, in amongst the hostas. The flowers don't so great there there isn't nearly enough sun, but they are cheap and fill the space until I can figure out somethings to put there.  I just bought some dwarf willows and a dwarf dogwood to put in back of the hostas, to give a little height. I also bought a silver mound artemisia, and balloon flower to put in what we decided is going to be a new bed.  We haven't decided exactly where said new bed is going, but we wanted these plants and the existing beds are all too shady, so we need a sunny bed.  I am excited, I LOVE gardening, and hopefully I get good at it too.

Accidents do happen no matter how many rubbers you have or use.  If you are consenting to sex, then you are consenting to the possibility of conceiving a child.  WHY does the woman get to decide everything? It IS her body, but in 99% of cases she said yes in the first place (If she didn't that is a whole other discussion and should have a completely different set of rules and consequences) If she consented to sex with that guy then she should have consented to consult with that guy in the case of unwanted reproduction.. Why is that so hard? We really need to teach our children that WHOEVER you have sex with might be the parent of your unplanned child, choose wisely. 

Women have been playing the victim card for too long, we cannot be both victims and equal.  I choose equal. I am standing up right now and saying that if I turned out to be pregnant today then it would be because I chose to have sex with someone who deserves a say in what happens to the fetus either way.  I gave him that right when I said yes to the fun parts, just because it is no longer fun doesn't mean it is all his fault, that he should be punished, or that he doesn't deserve a say in the future of that little bit of biology.  If he wants it bad enough he can have it, pay the medical bill, depart with it as soon as it is born.  If he doesn't he can opt out with a "legal abortion" (why should the woman have the only right to wash her hands and be done with it?) If she still wants it then he is done as a parent, and has no rights or responsibilities.  If they both don't then they can piss off the right to lifers together. The man terminating his rights in the pregnancy can be part of her decision making process.

If you are wondering where this came from check out blunt_force_mama's post.

And yes I have been lurking all this time